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Writer's pictureOliver Bukasa

Learn to Fail - A Pathway to Resilience

Updated: Jan 1


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Have you ever felt the bitter sting of failure?


You're not alone. But what if I told you that failure, while tough to accept, can become your greatest ally?


Failure is tough, and from time to time, we all wrestle with it. Whether it's in academia, getting the grades you want, professional pursuits, or personal relationships, failure in all its forms is tough to accept.


THE HOLISTIC PERSPECTIVE

Take a moment and think about this: From the beginning, we're conditioned to look at life with only two options: success or failure, win or lose. This perspective might work in some contexts, like for pilots or surgeons whose jobs demand absolute precision.


But is it universally applicable? Should it define every aspect of our lives? That all depends on the consequences of failure.


Consider this for a moment - resilience is born out of navigating demanding moments. A resilient mind is one that can withstand life's pressures, and accepts challenges, always keeping an eye on the finish line.


But here's the thing: the 'success at all cost' mentality often blinds us from the valuable lessons failure can teach. Failure is not a dreadful end. Contrary to our childhood conditioning, failure is the seed we plant for innovation to grow.


In every failure, there is a lesson.


Next time you encounter failure, ask yourself - 'WHY?' This question bridges the gap to growth, development, and innovation.


DON'T JUST FAIL

Now let's be clear. The goal is not to fail, but to win.


However, embracing failure when it comes is crucial.


Take the 2007 New England Patriots as an example. They won every regular season game, only to stumble in the Super Bowl. Ask any team member, and they'll tell you they would've all preferred a loss during the regular season to that final defeat.


Like the Patriots, the taste of defeat propels you to never want to experience it again, and analyzing it makes spotting your weaknesses and what didn't work easier.


LEARN to fail


man sitting on beach reflecting and documenting his personal growth journey

So, become a master of documenting your journey. Learning from both success and failure. Whether it's through weekly summaries or moments of reflection, make it a habit to analyze what worked and what didn't.


Failure is not your enemy but your muse. Be inspired by it, learn from it, and let it build your resilience.


Learn to fail, but don't fail to learn.


As you navigate your path this week, think about this: What's one failure you can transform into a stepping stone to success?


Until next time,


Oliver Bukasa


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